How Do I Encourage My Wife To Become More Assertive?
Dear Te-Erika,
My wife is a great woman with leadership skills that she does not take advantage of with me. I want her to understand how powerful she is and become more assertive. I want her to stop feeling as though she owes me a favor when I do things for her. I want her to expect that I do what she wants all of the time. How do I help her?
Tim
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Dear Tim,
This is a very common request that men who desire Loving FLRs have. They equate a woman’s power with her being able to expect that she should have what she wants 100% of the time. In a Loving FLR this attitude is absolutely correct but most women are taught that being demanding and assertive is not lady-like or virtuous. In our society women are conditioned to be servants.
Unfortunately, a man can’t turn a passive woman into a Powerful Woman because when he insists that she become a Powerful Woman and she does it, it is actually an act of service to him which means she is faking being Powerful.
If you want your wife to become assertive on her own she needs to be in the company of other assertive women which will give her permission to grow into her Power. She would benefit from joining the Loving FLR Leadership Coaching Program and meeting me. I will definitely implant ideas she has never heard of before and she will never be the same.
During the Loving FLR Leadership Coaching Program for Women I challenge students to be assertive, take charge and demand more from the men in their lives. I help them to practice these skills every day. I help them to understand WHY being assertive is important to the success of their relationship and HOW to change the direction of their relationship so that it benefits everyone involved.
I don’t mince words. I don’t play games. If a woman is hesitant about her assertiveness, she will not feel that way after she spends 4 weeks with ME.
Give your wife the gift of POWER by signing her up for the Loving FLR Leadership Coaching Program. Tell her to give it a chance and I will do the rest.
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In my relationship my Wifes assertiveness grew from self confidence. The more confident she became the more assertive she became. I worked at creating a home that focuses around her needs and success. Assertiveness at home led to more self confidence at work. My Wife knows what she likes and wants and has the self confidence to be assertive enough to get what she wants.