For the past few days I have been wrestling with the fact that I have a desire to push Loving Female Led Relationships into the mainstream yet there aren’t many people willing to walk with me. I asked myself- If I have the drive, the talent and the skills to help push this forward, why can’t it happen? It can happen if I want it to, but at what price?
I have already done one radio interview about Loving FLRs and I have another scheduled for next week. I can get the press and attention for this relationship dynamic but will it be best represented when the audience I am advocating for doesn’t feel comfortable being in the spotlight?
I am not here to make anyone feel guilty about their choice for a lifestyle or their choice to be discreet about their love life. As a capable leader of this movement to advance a Female Led Society I have to meet the members where they are and respect their choices as I would have them respect mine.
Today I learned that it’s okay to lead a stealth movement. Just because I want to make an impact doesn’t mean we have to do it loudly. We will continue to grow as a community if I continue to do the work- quietly.
It’s okay for you to have a Loving FLR and to be private about it. I won’t push you to support me in my goals to make this relationship style mainstream. In fact, I will relax on the goal of pushing this into the public eye. Instead I will focus on supporting the men and women who do know that this is what they want. I will continue to write books for you, I will continue to coach you, I will continue to create love matches for you and I will continue to offer support for those who have chosen to live this lifestyle, whether or not you ever mention it to anyone. I want you to feel safe.
I know that I have the capabilities to push this forward in a major way, but if you are not ready to go with me, I have to relax my vision. After the FLR interview scheduled for next week, I won’t promote FLRs publicly any longer by doing interviews. It’s tough enough to try to explain this concept to mainstream audiences but I’m attempting to do it as a SINGLE woman with no couples willing to stand beside me as examples- which makes it so much more difficult.
Maybe one day things will change but for now, I don’t want anyone to feel obligated to show public support, and I don’t want to feel as though I have been wasting my time by growing this and realizing that I am unable to push it further. It’s okay to be your secret support. It’s important for me to protect your safety and privacy.
I have a new project and I’ll work on promoting that instead.
Thank you for allowing me the space to figure out how to continue to be a support to you while being fulfilled myself. I must admit, as a single woman on my own in a big city, I do need to feel supported and loved too. If I can’t get that through personal interactions, I do look for it through the work that I do.
Maybe that is good. Maybe that is bad. But it is what it is and I’m fine with it. What I won’t do is push you past your limits to satisfy my vision for growth. I can pivot and create growth elsewhere. It’s my choice.
Thanks for following along.
