When a woman decides that she wants to develop a Loving Female Led Relationship, she doesn’t really need to inform her partner if she wants to truly live this lifestyle. All she has to do is follow three basic guidelines:
- Decide what she wants from her partner.
- Openly express these desires.
- Accept nothing less than what she has expressed.
The last guideline is the most difficult for women to follow because they feel that compromising their needs for their partner’s needs and accepting what he gives her rather than demanding what she wants is noble and virtuous. That’s basically bullshit. A woman should never simply accept what a man has to offer her, she should express her desires and hold him accountable for giving them to her.
There is nothing noble and virtuous about a woman placing the needs of a man before her own. Men have created this idea and brainwashed women into believing it. A woman’s behavior should never be dictated by what a man believes is proper. A woman should determine what is proper for herself.
But what about the women who do not know what they want from a relationship? How can she set standards for her partner and express them boldly when she does not know what she wants?
There are plenty of ways to go about determining what she wants from a relationship but this is the basic concept.
How do you want to feel when you interact with your partner? What can he do to elicit those feelings? Be specific.
You want to be happy.
If you want to feel happy when interacting with your partner, determine what he can do to make you feel happy. Make a list of 3 things he can do and then express those to him as expectations, not requests. If he cares for you he will do them. If he does not care for you he will make excuses. Never join yourself with a man who does not care for you.
You want to feel special.
If you want to feel special when interacting with your partner, determine what he can do to make you feel special. Make a list of 3 things he can do and then express those to him as expectations.
You want to feel safe, emotionally and physically.
If you want to feel safe emotionally and physically when interacting with your partner, determine what he can do to make you feel safe. Make a list of 3 things he can do and then express those to him as expectations.
You want to feel proud of him.
If you want to feel proud of your partner, determine what he can do to make you feel proud of him. Make a list of 3 things he can do and then express those to him as expectations.
A man who is a good match for a Loving FLR will rise to the occasion, making a concerted effort to meet your expectations. He may not be perfect at first, but with your loving guidance, praise and support, he will become the man of your dreams and he will be proud to do so.
It is never unreasonable to ask for reasonable things from your partner. If you are hesitating about asking for what you want, remember that men don’t hesitate to ask for what they want so neither should you!
If you are a woman who needs support for determining what to ask for and how to place your needs first, register for our Loving FLR Leadership Coaching Program for Women. Women who join this program report that their lives are forever changed. Join us.
