4 Traits In Men Who Are Perfect For a Female Led Relationship
Female Led Relationships aren’t for everyone. It takes a special type of man and woman to make a Female Led Relationship successful. It is the agreement between the two that holds it together but an agreement made with the wrong type of man will bring nothing but frustration to the Powerful woman trying to sustain a loving FLR.
Let’s define a Powerful woman as a woman who has important life goals that are independent of her romantic relationship that she is working to achieve with or without a partner. This type of woman sees a romantic relationship as beneficial but not absolutely necessary.
When a woman creates a life that centers around her romantic relationship she gives away her power to the man and she can not lead a Female Led Relationship authentically. If she tries, she is faking it.
So what should a Powerful woman who is interested in a FLR look for? Easy. Check out these 4 traits.
Independent
Although it is true that most men who crave Female Led Relationships are looking for a woman to relieve them of the pressures of decision making, not all men are like that. If you are a Powerful woman you want a man who can lead his life successfully without you and is content to do so. He chooses to be with you and support you because it brings him joy to do so. He doesn’t need you for anything. He wants to be with you because your power amazes him.
Emotionally Secure
Being with a Powerful woman means that a man must share admiration for her with the community or even the world. An emotionally insecure man can not handle a relationship like this. He needs constant reassurance and that is simply too time consuming for a Powerful woman because she has other shit to do besides remind him that she chose him to stand by her side. If a man you are with is afraid that you could walk out on him or afraid to stand back and allow you to shine he will sabotage your success so that he can ensure that you remain with him. Choose a man who is content to allow you to be great, even if it means you have to leave him behind. If he is willing to lose you to your greatness, he deserves to be beside you.
Proactive
Men who are assets in a Female Led Relationship are men who are active problem solvers. They don’t sit back and wait for detailed instruction, they anticipate the needs of the woman they love and they meet them without hesitation. He is so smart that he can predict an issue that may arise that would hinder her leadership and he will warn her about it so that they can work together to create a solution if he can’t create one on his own. He does not need permission to solve problems and he is mentally capable of creating plans and executing them. A man who needs to be told over and over to complete tasks or solve problems is not a good choice for a Powerful woman because the focus transitions to instructing him rather than her personal growth and progress.
Nurturing
He wants you to grow. He wants to invest in you. He loves reminding you that you are amazing, offering you information to help you achieve your goals and assisting you in any way that he can. He is a nurturer. He loves progress, but most of all he loves assisting you as YOU progress. If there is any way that he can pave the way for you to live the life you dream of, he will do it without hesitation.
I guess I am not FLR material after all. I guess I just want a dominatrix significant other.
Once again, A post by Te-Erika, that has my newbie gears whirring!
This might be a great Check list for men seeking a Loving FLR.
It could be used at a number of junctures along our paths.
• Maybe something along these lines is a great check-in? I am new to all this… what do I need to be (poorly worded) … and no…fakers… you won’t make it…cracks will show.
• For me at this very moment, questioning my right to seek what I do. It’s nice to see the things that are clearly me… me since…forever. It also reminds me of things I may have to work harder on, be more mindful of. I don’t think I am a perfect anything. But if you strongly believe you have parts of all these traits… I feel relief that I am on the right path.
• Maybe at some later time. Some reassessment time. Some self-reflection, self- critique. Either set by a partner… or set it for yourself… am I living these traits?
Sure…there are probably more traits, we as a community could add or clarify or refine… but these could be a nice key to keeping yourself on the right path…or at least heading in the right direction.
If you fall off the path… maybe it’s no longer for you…
just my first thought on reading this…
I will keep it as a source material for seeing how I am sitting in this Loving FLR spectrum.
I used to work in places where there were 3 pillars or 4 pillars or however many pillars they used to hold up their “structure”… is this the basis for a man’s “four pillars of Loving FLR”?
Te-Erika
I’d be very interested to hear your views on devotional sex as part of a loving FLR. The ‘knight’ seems to share many characteristics with the true gentleman. I emphasise PART of a loving FLR, because I realise there is much more to a loving FLR than sex.
Mr. C
please email me with information about what devotional sex is? I can write about it on this blog if its relevant.
That’s very interesting. I feel exactly like this in regards to my girlfriend. But honestly, I think most normal man do too – specially man that don’t consider themselves as submissive.
Maybe flr is not really a thing. Just a comeback to the basics…