The #MeToo Movement Is Scaring Men Into Submission
As the collective voice of women becomes stronger and they are learning that their words have impenetrable power, men seem to be becoming more subdued. The #MeToo Movement encourages women to speak up about abuse at the hands of men. The mere accusation of abuse has shattered the careers of powerful men like Russell Simmons, Harvey Weinstein and Mayor Ed Murray.
There is a quiet hush happening across the country as men are forced to step back and be more careful of how they interact with women.
“I am afraid to talk to a Woman because if I say the wrong thing, she will ridicule me, or get me fired. Or if I make a compliment, she can have me fired for being inappropriate,” writes Stan L. in an email to LovingFLR.Com, seeking advice. “I can’t have conversations with Women, can’t touch them, can’t open doors for them, have to fear them because they can ruin my career or my life any time they want. I don’t know what to do. It leaves me depressed. I am discouraged, and will find myself crying over what I think I have lost.”
While this shift seems to be a fairy tale after years of living under an overtly patriarchal social order, not every woman believes it is fair for men to have to be emotionally and physically immobilized around women.
“I was just on a college campus on a business trip, and noted that Women outnumbered men two-to-one, and the men were subdued. In the wake of the #MeToo movement, they are intimidated, and afraid to talk to us until we determine what they can say. That is more power than I need, and more than Women should have,” Ashley, a member of the Loving FLR Community writes.
Although some women may believe having the hammer of justice swing violently against men in retribution for hundreds of years of deliberate oppression and disrespect is warranted, the sincere leaders of society will seek to create a healthy balance of interpersonal guidelines so that all of humanity will benefit.
What should be the next step for the #MeToo Movement? The acceptance andestablishment of Loving Female Led Relationships.
A Loving Female Led Relationship offers the guidelines that this society needs to restore order during this chaotic period. A Loving Female Led Relationship encourages women to become intentional leaders of their relationships, operating with the best interests of the long term success of their union. Within the context of a Loving Female Led Relationship women are encouraged to speak up about their boundaries, intentions and vision for the relationship and the men express support by respecting their wishes. There are no gray areas. Every exchange between the man and the woman is mutually agreed upon and desired.
There are no selfish women in Loving Female Led Relationships. There are no weak-minded men in Loving Female Led Relationships. Couples in Loving Female Led Relationships form a team where the woman is the expressed leader of the relationship and the household. The man willingly offers his support to her vision for their relationship because he trusts her leadership.
All men must learn to respect and trust the leadership of women, but first, all woman must be introduced to the concept of intentional leadership of their relationships through establishing Loving Female Led Relationships. When women are educated about their option to become intentional leaders of their romantic relationships and introduced to the principles behind sincere and effective positive leadership, the entire civilization will benefit greatly.
For far too long we have encouraged the leadership of men, not based on ability, skill or aptitude, but based on hyper masculinity, force and the ability to manipulate for capital gain. Implementing the concepts of Loving Female Led Relationships and intentional leadership by women as we establish a new and progressive Female Led Society will alleviate the fear men feel as a result of this new awakening of women’s power during the #MeToo movement. It will also help women to re-imagine their priorities, quicken their innovative acumen and propel our global society to unparalleled heights.
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Very well written and good points. Women as intentional leaders will be wonderful for society and as a man in an FLR I can say both men and women benefit from the woman leading.
In the beginning of our FLR and even periodically still today, I sometimes defer too much or submit too much to my wife. Fortunately, my wife will correct me if she feels I am being too afraid or too tentative in deciding what I need to do or not do. For example, I still attempt to hold the door, open the car door for her first at all times but she will simply tell me directly, “Just get in, you don’t need to open my side”. Or if she assigns/delegates 3 tasks, and I ask “Which chore/task would you like me to do first?” She may say in an irritated tone, “Just get them all done before I get home, I really don’t care in what order”. This tells me that I am deferring too much and I need to strike a balance.
Providing a compliment to a lady about her beauty or how impressed you are by her leadership if done politely and gentlemanly hopefully will not be viewed as harassment despite the Me Too movement. Would be interested to hear some ladies opinions on this subject.
I don’t interact with women in public anymore. I’ve stopped doing so ages ago when women would assumey politeness (simply saying hello or smiling) was the start of a “pick up.” It takes me a lot to be interested in a woman, sever all interactions if not months of friendship. I’m simply not comfortable with the general assumptions made by them. I’ll interact with women who make several efforts to engage with me and I don’t make any comments that would be regarded as flirting. I’ve been like this for a long time.
When I was young, I was put into several awkward situations by a friend’s older female cousin. I was visited by social workers to talk about sexual appropiatness. Metoo is very difficult for me because I find it very accusatory towards men in general, as if we are all wrong and need fixing, and I see it very lenient on women who may have been predators towards boys or girls. It’s actually been very problematic for me as I find I am retreating more and more these days because I simply don’t feel there is support and encouragement for men and that we are held to differwant, stricter standards. I have experienced most of what the metoo movement is about at the hands of females yet I’m not offered the same voice or opportunity to make amends with my past.
I’m not complaining, in not audacious enough to say it’s not right for one people to have voices while others don’t, I’m just saying it’s a shame not everyone is offered the privelege of speaking out regarding wrongs that have been done to them
Moving forward, I hope we can fix this as a society