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I’m Afraid to Be in a FLR

Dear Te-Erika, With her needs as a priority in a Female Led Relationship, I am concerned that my needs might not get the attention and support they need.  ~M Dear M, Men who are afraid of a Loving Female Led Relationship have probably spent a lot of time combing the internet for information about Loving
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Even though Alpha women are strong, they know how to love too.

I met Sarah during my broke days in UCLA Berkeley when I was desperately looking for a job. I dreamed and still plan to build up my career in Diplomacy and Foreign Affairs. My wife was a strong independent woman but unfortunately a heartbroken single mom when I first met her. I suffered 5 rejections
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What is a Woman’s Responsibility in a FLR?

We often discuss how important it is for men to uphold the FLR concepts of Please Her, Protect Her, Promote Her. But, in a Loving Female Relationship (Loving FLR) women have certain responsibilities too. A man wrote in recently to say: I cannot imagine that I’m the only man who gave his all to a
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I Have Always Respected My Wife’s Decisions

I know how men can wheedle and press their partners to get what they want, when they fear they won’t get it. I am not lily-white in that regard. If she says she’ll think about, or gives a “hmmm” or a maybe, whether to soften a “no” or because she really does want to think
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Men Have Fears About Relationships Too

No man is a superhuman, even when we want them to be. Women expect men to have it all together at all times, to never be emotional or insecure or need TLC. But men are human too and sometimes they need reassurance because they have fears about being hurt, abandoned or not being good enough.
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Can a Woman be Too Demanding in a Loving FLR?

After more than a decade of being single I met a man and I felt it was a good idea to give a relationship with him a try. He was very considerate, thoughtful and tried his best to please me. I was shell shocked, honestly. I thought this type of behavior was reserved for women
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Am I in a FLR Right Now?

I study relationships like most people study their favorite sports team or hobby. I have spent the last decade studying Marriage/Family therapy in grad school and eventually moving into defining the relationship style that we now know as Loving FLR by writing 5 books, creating videos and online education programs. I have interviewed or surveyed
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FLR Myth #1 – FLRs are Created Instantly

I once met a woman through this Loving FLR platform who complained that the men she met on dating apps who professed to want a FLR were actually insincere. As I chatted with her I learned that her idea of a FLR centered around obedience to her desires. She was extremely angry that she could
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I Fell In Love During the FLR Soulmate 30 Day Challenge

I can’t believe I am writing this but it’s real. I am Te-Erika Patterson, the Publisher of LovingFLR.Com and I began studying FLRs back in 2014 as a joke. I heard about the concept of Female Led Relationships through my time studying in the BD.SM Community. At the time I was frustrated by my relationships
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FLR School Is Now Open For Registration

Many readers have asked for a way to meet other FLR enthusiasts from around the world to discuss FLR themes in real time. Loving FLR has delivered. The very first FLR School is now open for registration. When you join the FLR School you get: 8 WEEKLY LIVE interactive web classesLive virtual GROUP DISCUSSIONS every
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